Family Life
Kidney disease is a family affair.

Everyone in the family feels the impact of chronic kidney disease.
Often family members need to readjust and take on different responsibilities and roles. Household schedules change and time management becomes an even bigger focus of day to day life. Shopping and mealtimes change as the family tries to accommodate the limitations and restrictions of the renal diet. Outings and vacations become less spontaneous as travel time revolves around availability and access to dialysis. Financial resources may become strained as family income changes and expenses grow.
These changes may be difficult but the obstacles they present can be met and overcome.
- The first step is to learn about kidney disease as a family. Learning about the disease together is one way of acknowledging the fact that everyone is affected. Children who have chronic kidney disease or have a parent with kidney disease need to be told about the illness at an age-appropriate level. The dialysis staff can assist with this and there are a number of educational resources online especially for children. Children also may have a lot of fear and anger about what is happening to their families. Understanding the illness can help them deal with it better.
- The second step is to work together on creating solutions and strategies to meet the many challenges brought about by chronic kidney disease. Make sure everyone has a chance to talk and a chance to suggest solutions. It's a good way to get everyone working on the problems together and making the necessary accomodations and compromises that a new family way of life may bring.
- The third step is to seek out and accept the assistance and resources that you will need to be successful. There is no reason to “go it alone” whether as an individual or as a family. It's too easy to become discouraged or burned out if you try to do it all yourself. Allowing extended family member, friends and neighbors to provide transportation or do shopping or other chores is a smart way to include others who care and want to help and to provide a needed break to family members.
In this section you will find patients and family members who are facing the challenge of kidney disease are working together to create a better life.
Articles by patients
A Family Affair - PDF 63 Kb by by Robert Ziegler (Reprinted from RSN's Live & Give Newsletter - Winter'09 Issue)
So You Think You Can Dance - PDF 81Kb... by Stephanie Page, Pepp Speaker & weKAN Activist
Living Life as Job Did - PDF 34Kb by Thomas Slater
Role Reversal - PDF 61Kb by Guy Tibbels (Renal Outreach, Summer 2003)
The Great Equalizer: My Life as a Kidney Kid and Beyond - PDF 43Kb by Malia Langen, weKAN Activist
Articles by family members
A Sister's Story - 72Kb
A candid view of an older child coping with the effects of her younger brother's kidney failure
Spouse: A Wife's View Of Dialysis by Susan Faber
A chapter from the Kidney Transplant/ Dialysis Association Handbook Download the complete book at The KT/DA Web site .
What About Us - The Family - PDF 65Kbby Sonia Juhasz (Renal Outreach, Summer 2002)
Articles by professionals
Caregivers Appreciated - PDF 41Kb by LeAnn Thieman, RN
Managing Stress: What Kidney Patients, Family Members, and Caregivers Need to Know - PDF 31Kb by Ramiro Valdez, PhD
Diet - What Me Worry? - PDF 54Kb by Janet Schueller, M.S., R.D., L.D. (Renal Outreach, Winter 2004) .
I'm Not The Patient! So Why Do I Feel So Bad? - PDF 54Kb by Fonda Setters, MSW (Renal Outreach, Fall 2002)
Communicating As A Couple - PDF 102Kb by Kathi J. Niccum, Ed.D. This article originally apperared on iKidney.com in August 2000.
Booklets
Encouragement: Bridging the Barriers (For Patients and Their Families)
This 44-page booklet defines renal rehabilitation in terms that patients and families can understand. Several patient profiles highlight the reality of rehabilitation. The booklet also includes answers to common questions about kidney disease, tips for traveling, and a brief section on the role of family members.
Books
To read about and order the following books follow the links to the Web sites listed below.
Dialysis: An Unanticipated Journey by David L. Axtmann
A dialysis patient for over 32 years shares his journey.
Chronically Happy: Joyful Living In Spite Of Chronic Illness by Lori Hartwell
The Chronic Illness Experience: Embracing the Imperfect Life by Cheri Register (living with MS)
Last updated on: November 11, 2010